“All children are artists. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up.” – Pablo Picasso
It has been the desire of my heart for the longest time to host ladies, especially mothers in townships, and have a day of pampering and conversing about the struggles they face with the hope to lift up their spirit and encourage them.
I remember going home during school holidays and overhearing and sometimes engaging in conversations that really left me with a heavy heart. It saddened me to hear how mothers let their inner child die the minute they brought a child into this world.
On the 29th of February 2020, I had the opportunity to have a sit down with a few wonderful young mommies from different backgrounds and we had the most amazing time ever.
I had actually kind of forgotten about my dream of having events directed at empowering and uplifting women when I decided to invite these ladies over to my house. I was actually just looking for an opportunity to hang out with ladies without having to leave my babies at home. So it started off just as a fun day. It was only on the evening before the event that I got nervous and started thinking about the reason behind the gathering. Why was I putting in effort and money, which I could spend on my children, on this gathering? Then it hit me and I remembered how badly I’ve been looking for an opportunity to bring the inner child back to life.
You might be wondering what kind of childish mother creche I’m trying to start here with childlike mothers. However, there’s a difference between being childlike and being childish. People who act bratty or immature are childish, but to be childlike is to have the good qualities associated with a child. At this gathering, we mainly focused on the childlike qualities that will have you dreaming big and working on the best version of yourself.
I think the worst thing we can do to ourselves and our dreams is to limit or totally shut down our imagination. The bible says that “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen”.
I’ve been observing Rofhiwa in total awe as he creates amazing moments of things that he hopes for and experiencing them as though they are real. This took me back to ‘my days’ (I say my days because I feel like I too have limited my imagination) when I used to let my imagination run free and wild. The days when I would walk back from school and imagine my whole future as it is today. Ohk, not everything went as I had hoped for. Some things worked out even better than I had imagined, then there are a few that didn’t work out at all. The only one that I would’ve never imagined to happen so early in my life, is the death of my mother. I wonder where I would’ve been had I not let my imagination run wild. Remember that “as a man thinketh, so he is”.
I find it amazing how children confidently walk around believing that their parents will buy them the toy that they so badly desire without even considering where the money will come from. We used to be like that as children until the world filled us with too many reasons why things won’t happen. The sad part about losing faith is that we could easily pass it on to our children and kill their dreams even before they get to imagine themselves as something greater than their current situation. If you strongly believe that you can attain a certain goal in life, your whole mindset will be channeled into working towards achieving it and nothing will stop you. A child believes in his imaginations so much that it becomes real to him. As a mother you need to know that God is able to make a way, you just need to believe it!
Curiosity and Persistence
Have you ever had to say no to a child and still have to comfort him after he ignored you and got hurt? A child’s curiosity and persistence do not allow him to take a “no” as easy as adults do. And do to think that getting hurt will stop them from going back to the exact thing you were trying to keep them away from. Curiosity will lead you to ask questions that will open the doors that lock up your mother’s dreams, it will lead you to solutions to your problems and with solutions come opportunities. Persistence will have you working hard until you achieve your goals.
I know there are many other mothers who got into situations that forced them to ‘grow up’ and prioritize the well being of their children. You have managed to be a good mother but your children would not want to be the reason for you giving up on your dreams. If you keep that childlike mindset alive you will be able to take care of your children and inspire them while doing that. You spent your childhood years as an artist painting a bright future for yourself so don’t let motherhood force you to put away your paint and brush. You can still finish your painting, it might take a bit longer and require a bit more effort and strength, but you will make it.