A Letter To My Mother-In-Love

Dear Mother-In-law

There are many monster-in-law stories on the internet, but this is definitely not one of them.

Tears are filling my eyes as I am writing this, but do not fret. These tears are filled with joy and thankfulness unto the Lord.

For this mother-in-law, I have prayed. A mother-in-law who fears the Lord, for I knew that I will need an extra pair of knees to support me in prayer. A mother-in-law who would love me like her own and call me daughter. For this mother-in-law, I have prayed, but God gave me a mother.

Many women are good mothers to their biological children, but only a few can love as you do. Your love is genuine and evident in everything you do. It is the kind of love that put my own mother at ease, the love that assured her that her daughter will be in good hands. She rests in peace knowing that her daughter has a shoulder to cry on, and a support system to guide her through motherhood.

I thank you for loving me with everything I came with; my flaws, and my siblings. Thank you for being the best Gugu (grandmother) to our sons and for always spoiling us when you can. Thank you for all the snacks and food that you pack for us and not being mad at me for not returning your Tupperware on time. You discipline with love for your aim is not to break me, but to build me up to be the best version of myself.

On this day I celebrate and I thank the Lord for a mother like you. Happy mother’s day.

I recently wrote a blog post about motherhood on Elize’s Homethentic blog celebrating all mother figures because mother’s day is not only for those who gave birth but for every woman who sacrificed and continues to sacrifice their life to love and nurture children. You can read the blog post here.

Hi There!

Welcome to my blog! My name is Tshepiso Evon Musehani, I am a young mom of two boys, and a deputy mom to my 4 siblings.  

My husband (Melvin Musehani aka ‘The Appchemist’) and I got married in 2016 and in that same year I gave birth to our little genius, Rofhiwa. I didn’t really feel like I am a whole adulting mother because both my mother and mother-in-law were there to help us out and to give us a ‘break’ every now and then. However, something that we did gave God the idea that we are winning at this parenting thing. So God took my dearest mother on the 4th of January 2019.

I don’t know if this is a general thing throughout all races, but I know to be the eldest child in black African families, automatically qualifies you as the ‘Deputy Parent’. On that day we went from ‘part-time’ parenting one child to full-time parents of 5 children. You can just imagine how that changed our lives. A few months later I found out that I was pregnant, and would soon be a mother of two boys,  deputy mom to 4 siblings and an aunt (mma mogolo) to my sister’s child. 

I’m a mom and a debuty mom blessed with a wonderful husband who has been coding since he was thirteen, my own private developer who sorts out all my computer-related issues. There he was finally done with my blog and I could finally stop using him as an excuse for procrastinating, and that’s when we saw the B-word! However, I was not gonna let a simple ‘b’ hold me back. Nope, it was time to prove to myself that I can make lemonade from the lemons thrown at me. So I am a mom and debuty mom, deputy with a ‘b’ for beauty because motherhood is beautiful regardless of how you became a mother.

As young parents, we know that this journey is going to be very challenging, demanding, and stressful at times, but this is our life now and we are determined to work together to give everyone who is under our care the best that we can offer. We also know that we can’t do it on our own so I would like to take you with on this wonderful mysterious journey of figuring this parenting thing out.